I’m going to break down 4 goals of mine according to the . The goals, and their status at this moment of writing on 8/18/11. Keep in mind, the two goals where you see that status is “fail” to describe the goal’s realization at this point in time.
I’ve learned that it is dumb to think in terms of “fail” because it sabotages the entire reaction/feedback process of getting the goal…more on this when I breakdown each goal’s situation.
Here are the 4 goals we are going to look at:
Goal #1: Relationship with the woman of my dreams. Status: Success achieved in 2 months and it is even better now.
Goal #2: Work full-time making lots of money doing something that helps others by working on themeditationmind.com.. Status: Success for 6 months until April 2010, and then it slipped away. Current status is a fail.
Goal #3: Earning $xxx,xxx per year, which is a weekly amount higher than I had previously earned. Status: Success achieved in 6 weeks, but it came with some unanticipated consequences.
Goal #4: Become a New York Time’s List Best-Selling author. Status: Fail
Now I’m going to break each one down and analyze what has gone on.
Intention – Relationship with the woman of my dreams
It was clear. I could not picture it, but I focused on how I wanted to feel with her. I’ve heard over and over that I need to visualize my goals as being achieved. This does not work for me at all. And in the case of this intention, women are so awesome that I did not want to limit the possibilities of who I could meet by picturing a certain type beforehand. So I just kept focusing on the feeling I would have inside when I was with this lady.
I was not concerned with how it happened and had no preconceived notions of how she would be found. There are so many ways to meet someone it seems ignorant to me to insist that you have to meet someone at a bar, on match.com, or at church, whatever. It is fine to meet people at those spots, but I didn’t think about any of that, just how I wanted to feel.
Expectation – I didn’t have any! No time frames, no specific look…although I did want her to like my old personal blog, scottdblog.com, which the girlfriend at the time didn’t.
Action – My most important action was that I kept holding the feeling of what it would be like to be with the woman of my dreams. Looking back I am shocked that this was the big “action” that I took!
After holding this “action” for awhile, things collapsed with the girlfriend at that time, a very nice girl but just wasn’t the one for me. As long as my intention was the woman of my dreams, I literally could not get along with the girlfriend at the time. So we broke up, that was my action. Clearing the space, becoming eligible, going out single, those were my other actions. Holding the feeling was definitely the most important action.
Consequences- The women of my dreams came rushing in and I would run into her almost daily by coincidence. We met on the elevator, having lived in the same building only one floor apart for 7 months, but never met until about two weeks after I started this intention.
We’re married, have a daughter, and are pregnant again. I have learned new levels of love and new dimensions of myself.
Reaction – My reaction to meeting the woman of my dreams was to ask her out! Also, instead of dating 3-5 women at once as I had been known to, I stayed conscious and aware that I could really screw things up if I tried that approach with her. So I became committed way before I thought I would.
Every day I get rewarded when I stay conscious and open to reality.
Intention – Work full-time making lots of money doing something that helps others by working on themeditationmind.com.
Its not clear enough. What is the work I am doing? What does that feel like? How much am I making? How am I helping? To think I quit a full-time job at Motorola on this intention and faith!
Expectation – I did not stop to think about the fact that I really didn’t have a firm grip on what the steps were and I also didn’t have an end vision. I always held the mindset that “Once I do [some action], then things will start happening.” This was wrong on multiple fronts, because I was holding off success into the future, and because I didn’t even know what to expect once I did [some action]. Fear of failure caused me to listen to websites, gurus, multiple marketing wizards, and all they did was create more anxiety about what I needed to be doing, and more distance from my intention which was fuzzy to begin with.
Action – Kept doing a flurry of things without truly being present to how they were working, and was it the most important thing I should be doing? I was trying to do 10,000 things at once plus listened to a marketing lady that was clueless (that I manifested through bad intention) and did not listen to my own instincts. Launched joint ventures with major spiritual authors and needed to refine my offer but I stuck with it.
Consequence – I failed in that I had to go back having an employer again. But I really didn’t have an intention that was clear enough to determine failure or success.
Reaction – Dramatic self-pity and denial at first. Unconscious disconnect, a sort of fog where I would be taking action, but there was this numbness and denial as I was taking action. Continued to listen to even more marketing gurus, assuming the issue was a missing technique or strategy.
This goal has so far “failed” and is no longer a goal. For growth from this intention, I ask myself, “Where is the growth?” (this is great advice from my channeled intuitive reading).
For growth, I can now look at the fact I have 10,000 people a month coming to the site. I can also see that a crystal clear intention is a key factor in success. I have received dozens of emails from readers that found value and help in the site’s content. I’ve hung out with authors I admire. I now have a platform for a publisher to consider my book proposal.
Intention – Make $xxx,xxx + annually, an amount higher than any previous annual amount.
It was clear. I was extremely motivated. It felt strong. I couldn’t picture anything, just feel it. I didn’t need any convincing that it could happen.
Expectation – I expected to make over a certain dollar amount. I knew in my bones I was a top flight SQL coder. I had no fear of failure and no one could convince me I wasn’t worth the money in the database development field.
This expectation did constrict the universe’s options for delivering my intention to database development since that is what I thought it would be. In hindsight I shouldn’t have added that constraint.
Action – Called a few business contacts and posted my resume on 2 job boards. Hung tough on my quoted hourly rate when initially there was resistance from recruiters.
Consequence – Making the amount with the combination of all my database clients. However, my intention, while clear and being clearly met, something cropped up. I did not intending the amount of time and effort I wanted to put in to make the income. I’ve been working massive hours and exhaustion has set in. I have not been working on personal growth or writing at all, am quick to snap at people, and gained 5 pounds.
Reaction – I realized I was living my intention, so I’d say that I reacted in a good, conscious way. I need to create new intention/expectation pairs that allow for more money combined with more free time and fun. I like that instead of griping and being angry about some good fortune, I am taking a step back. How can I make my internal intentions and processes better so that I can have the income and the personal growth?
Intention – Become a New York Time’s List Best-Selling author.
Well…this one is still germinating, so at this time, it is a fail. I don’t think I can say it any better than my channeled intuitive reading put it:
“Let’s use the idea of a New York times best seller as an example. The question is, if that is your intention but I don’t really have a clear idea of the book I want to write, that intention is not going to go very far first of all because there is not a product. There won’t be any incitement to take the action to write the book. On the other hand, if I have a subject that I feel very passionate about, but can’t find an approach that will allow me to create a New York Times best seller, then I also won’t find the motivation. If on the other hand I recognize that the more appropriate motivation is to learn everything that I can about writing a book by writing one, including channeling my personality and enthusiasm into it by writing about a subject that I feel passionate about, I’m in a learning process where even if the book doesn’t get published, or is published but is not as successful as a New York Times best seller, it’s a win-win situation.
It’s a win for me as a writer and as a spiritual teacher, it’s a win for the publisher, and it’s a win for the audience. But my expectations now could get in the way by telling me that it wasn’t worthwhile to write the book because it wasn’t a New York Times Best Seller.
So getting clear about my intentions and expectations can help me take action. It’s not like I’m simply going to be given a New York Times best seller by channeling. It’s possible, but channeling skills require that I take the time to develop them and that’s not a part of the program. I’m waiting for inspiration without having a non-physical source for the inspiration or the technique necessary to receive it or take it down.
The best thing that I can do to move forward on the idea of publishing a book is writing on a daily basis. Even if it’s not related to a particular book process, even If it’s just an emptying out of thoughts or ideas. At some point, something may gel or crystallize, something may show up that’s worth pursuing or developing, and then a new set of steps develops that may involve research and casting the project into form.
The problem with most reality techniques as they are taught currently in New Age circles is that they imply that it’s possible to generate a lot of energy without necessarily taking a lot of time and getting instant and often miraculous results. And while this does happen under certain circumstances, disappointing consequences are always telling me about something I need to know about modifying expectations, clarifying intentions, or pursuing a more appropriate set of steps. If I don’t operate from that very basic approach to reality creation, nothing will work in the learning about the law of attraction and so on.”
I hope this helps you get what you want. Parts 3, 4, 5, and 6 will appear over the next ten days. They will discuss the changes in my beliefs, thinking, and meditations to help facilitate this process.
Paton August 18, 2011 Reply
Thanks for this post – it is so helpful! When I read Part 1, I was really confused, but now that I have read Part 2 with your examples, it all makes a lot of sense. Thanks for having the courage to share some very personal examples. If you are looking for a subject to write a book on, I would read a book that tells of your experiences with manifesting, like this post, except in more depth.
adminon August 25, 2011 Reply
Thank you Pat, I appreciate your feedback. Wouldn’t you know it, after writing this, my entire book is somewhat tangible now. I was able to write out an outline that felt solid, real, and really excited me to write. I’m pitching Hay House next month, wish me luck!
Markon August 19, 2011 Reply
Thank you Scott. This is important information. I have found that, like you, it is very important to communicate clearly with my guides ( like waiters in a restaurant)what I need help with and letting them and the universe bring to me what they do with very little expectation, just some hopes, and lots of thanks with any outcome-prefered or not.
adminon August 25, 2011 Reply
Thanks for reading. What are you ordering from your waiter this week?
Take it easy,
Oliveron August 27, 2011 Reply
This is good stuff already. I think you’re on to something. Even though it might be a bit technical for American New Agers it would really work well for the structured German New Age mind.
Looking forward to seeing you in October.
adminon September 2, 2011 Reply
The technical details are what makes it work for me, so that’s what I write. It certainly isn’t the only way though.
Just trying to keep the flow going…
Take it easy,
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